What if the biggest red flag wasn't the people you chose-but the patterns that taught you chaos felt like love?
If you've ever found yourself trapped in toxic relationships, ignoring red flags, making excuses for harmful behaviour, or wondering, "Why do I keep ending up here?" this book is for you.
Red Flag Rehab is a powerful blend of memoir, psychology, humour, and practical healing. Registered Psychotherapist Rebecca Rafuse shares her own journey through unhealthy relationships while helping readers understand the hidden patterns that keep them stuck. With warmth, honesty, and plenty of relatable moments, she explains why we become attracted to emotionally unavailable partners, why trauma can make chaos feel familiar, and how healing is possible.
This isn't another book about blaming yourself for choosing the wrong partner. It's about understanding the nervous system, attachment wounds, childhood experiences, and survival patterns that shape our relationships-and learning how to break those cycles with compassion instead of shame.
Inside you'll discover how to:
• Recognize the hidden roots of toxic relationship patterns.
• Understand attachment wounds, trauma bonds, codependency, and nervous system conditioning.
• Identify red flags before becoming emotionally invested.
• Recognize manipulation tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, future faking, and weaponized incompetence.
• Set healthy boundaries without guilt.
• Rebuild self-worth, trust your intuition, and create relationships rooted in safety and respect.
Filled with relatable stories, humour, reflection prompts, and practical exercises, Red Flag Rehab goes beyond helping you recognize unhealthy relationships. It helps you heal the parts of yourself that believed chaos was love.
Whether you're recovering from narcissistic abuse, emotional manipulation, codependency, or simply want healthier relationships, this book offers both validation and practical tools for lasting change.
You don't need to spend another year repeating the same relationship patterns.
You deserve relationships that feel safe instead of confusing.
You deserve peace instead of survival.
If you're ready to stop collecting red flags and start reclaiming your life, Red Flag Rehab will help you begin that journey-one insight, one boundary, and one courageous step at a time.
