We're all familiar with the stereotypical freeloading relative. He's usually depicted in the movies as an able-bodied but unkempt bum, who lives with mom or a more responsible sibling, refuses to get a job, and spends his days lying on the sofa, drinking beer, getting potato chips all over the carpet, and watching cartoon marathons. But in real life, few family freeloaders are so obvious.
OUR freeloaders are professionals. They're subtle. They're versatile. They run complicated scams and convoluted cons on us. They always have their antennae up for any little clue they might find useful. Like the predators they are, they're constantly sizing us up to see what they can get out of us. They're looking for personality traits they can use against us, like gullibility, kindness, a trusting nature, or a soft heart. Even our pride is useful to them-because then they can employ flattery, or "gratitude," to get what they want.
If you're susceptible to guilt, it makes you an easy target. If you're a sympathetic person, quick to feel sorry for those who are going through tough times, or if you easily empathize with others, then you're an even better target. If you're concerned about other people's opinions and want everybody to think you're nice, that's like a flashing neon "Sucker" sign over your head. To a con man, if you have trouble saying "No," that's a sign of weakness which he can exploit. If we're efficient, or pride ourselves on being "problem-solvers," then the freeloader will give us a problem to solve for him. If we have a "rescuer" mentality, our freeloader will help us satisfy those urges. Freeloaders and con men are looking for "people pleasers."
Is it important to you to give others the impression that you're a "good Christian?" Or to prove to YOURSELF that you're a good Christian? We presume that "good" Christians give to charity, but how do you define "charity?" Do you think you have to give to every hard luck case who asks? Does your chronically unemployed cousin qualify as a legitimate charity cause in your mind? Would it make you a "bad" Christian to say "No" to the sister-in-law who constantly imposes on you? If you equate agreeing to every request anybody ever asks of you, or giving money to every person who seems to need it, with being a "good" Christian, then once a freeloader gets a hold of you, you're in for a long night... ..
Written with humor, wisdom, and a healthy dose of common sense, “The Family Freeloader” teaches us “21 Ways To Spot A Con”, the various ploys that freeloaders use to scam money or favors out of us, how they observe and test us, and which personality traits make us seem like easy prey. We will systematically debunk their most common sob stories and surprisingly sneaky tactics, study what the Bible REALLY says about giving to the poor vs. supporting a bum and learn step-by-step effective strategies for letting go of the guilt and saying "No" to our family freeloaders. This book is an invaluable lesson for all kind-hearted, generous folks who love their families, on how to avoid being taken advantage of by the unscrupulous among us.
